How do you handle compliments?
Many people have trouble simply answering a compliment with “thank you”. How is that possible? The moment someone comes with any kind of compliment, "Gosh, I didn't realize what a beautiful figure you have", the answer is often "I don't have that either". We get confused, uncomfortable and the first tendency is to downgrade the compliment. This is not pleasant for yourself, but also really not nice for the giver of the compliment, who then defends himself with the fact that the compliment is really sincere.
We learn early on to be humble. Being proud of yourself is associated with patting yourself on the back. There is something wrong about it. Self-confidence tends to be arrogance. This is collective. It is natural in our society that it is easier to put yourself down than to pat yourself on the back. This while we all really need the feeling of being proud of ourselves. We need recognition. Appreciation. Everybody. From others, but especially from yourself. You can analyze it as much as you want. It comes from grandparents to your parents. From training courses, workplaces, friends and acquaintances.
There is only one way to start breaking this.
Every compliment can be answered with “thank you”.
Traditionally, it has been very positive to be humble and modest. There is nothing wrong with that either. But sometimes I think we learned that a little too well. That it makes it more difficult for us to reach our sense of pride. That feeling is an essential part of your happiness. I think it is slowly time to make more use of this energy source again. Perhaps it is an idea to give more compliments and receive positively.
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Datum: 28-12-'20
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