What is BDSM?
We somewhat know BDSM from the "50 Shades of Gray" book series and, for example, the Netflix series "Bonding". For many people it is interesting to see and nice to try out as an addition to their "vanilla" sex life, as role-playing or soft SM. Other people take it further. For them it is a fixed element in their relationship or even a way of life. These people have a different experience of sexuality than the average person. It is often difficult for these people to share or talk about it and sometimes there is no acceptance of their (own) sexuality.
BDSM is the abbreviation of Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. In this Dominant/submissive relationship there is generally a dominant, sadistic partner and a submissive, masochistic partner. Within the D/s relationship, the latter is obedient and subordinate to the former. The dominant is indicated by Domme (f), Dom (m), Mistress or Master; the submissive as a slave or sub. There are also so-called switches that, depending on the circumstances or the partner, assume a dominant or submissive role.
The BDSM scene has a great diversity in experience, relationships and behavior. The list below is not exhaustive, but gives some examples of what you might encounter:
- Femdom is the form of BDSM, where a woman is the dominant party and the man the subject. There can also be a conviction that women are superior to men or even that women should rule the world.
- Cuckolding. One of the partners, usually the dominant, has sex with others, with the submissive partner either watching or not watching. Sex within the relationship is usually limited.
- Findom stands for financial domination. The submissive takes pleasure in transferring part of his income to the dominant. Whether something and, if so, what is given in return varies.
- Daddydom. The often older male dominant, the Daddy, has a younger female submissive, the girl.
- Sissyfication. The male sub is taught to dress and behave as a woman and serves in that capacity his, or better her, Dominant.
- In Chastity, the submissive is forbidden from reaching orgasm. This is often enforced by locking the sex organ in a chastity belt, of which the dominant the keyholder.
- Fetishes often play a role within the above relationships. More well-known forms are the fetishes for feet, stockings and (worn) underwear.
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Datum: 19-02-'20
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